I believe this is the most important page of this site. Everything that I have put in here is meaningless with out this page. This is where action starts. This is where you will start taking control of your life. This is where you will become a meaningful specific rather from a wandering generality. So,
Let me confess it took me longest to write this particular page. It took a lot of reading, research and soul-searching to find the most practical method that can really help you to develop your own goal program that will give you balanced success. I must admit that once again it was my mentor Zig Ziglar who helped me through is wonderful book Over the Top.
Here again I stress on the idea of balanced success. Most people in this world have one dimensional or two dimensional success. The reason is they set goals in only one area of their life and ignore the others. As a result they may appear successful in the eyes of others, but inside they are not really happy and content.
Therefore to enjoy balanced the most important objectives of your life should be to
- Be Happy
- Be Healthy
- Be Prosperous
- Be Secured
- Have Peace of Mind
- Have Friends
- Enjoy Good Family Relationships
- Have Hope for a Better tomorrow
The above objectives along with the purpose of your life that you have identified will form the basis for your Goal Program. (If you have not yet found the Purpose of your life go to the page "Find the purpose of you life," on this website or click here.)
The best thing with the procedure that is suggested is that it is common for all types of goals. More over it will help you to develop a program encompassing every part of your life and will be targeted to help you achieve balanced success.
Warning: Developing a goal program is not a task that can be completed in a jiffy. It is time taking and requires patience. That might be the reason that many people never really get to really developing the goal program for their lives, even though they are impressed with the requirement of having one. So, the first goal that you will have to set is the goal of developing a goal program for your life. It may take you a couple of days to may be a week. But when we are talking about your life this time is worth investing.
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Step No. 1: TAKE INVENTORY
How will you know where you want to go if you do not even know where you are today? Many people live a life of denial. They wear a mask of so called satisfaction, though somewhere inside they are sea of discontentment. Then there are others who have a lot, but still complaints and are totally thankless. Both these situations, I believe are negative. In order to take inventory, ask the following questions to yours elf and answer them clearly on a sheet of paper. (I suggest you download the free "My Goal Program Development Tool" that I have created for you).
- What are the things in existence that makes me happy?
- What is the status of physical health, mental health and spiritual health?
- What is my financial position as of today?
- How secured I feel, emotionally and financially?
- Do I have peace of mind, or I suffer from discontentment?
- What is the status of my relationship with family and friends?
- What are the best things in my relationships and what is it that might be a problem?
Once you have answered the above questions giving reasonable thought you will be pretty aware of the current situation of your life. This current situation is your starting point, and from here you will go ahead.
Step No. 2: PPEPARE A WILD LIST
Since you already know that what you have, next step is to prepare a wild list of all that you want. It is being called a wild list, as at this stage you will write down whatever you feel you want without, prejudging, or using reason that how it can be achieved. Write down as and when it comes to your mind. You do not try to structure it anyway. This 'wish list' will include everything material or intangible. Include the members of your family as they are ultimately taking this trip with you. I am sure they will be excited to do it with you, as this just might be the first time you have really ever asked that what they want.
However, while making this list, stretch your imagination a bit, and try to be as specific as possible at this stage. For example if your list includes a new house, go on to explain where the house will be, what kind of locality, how will it look, how many rooms it will have, what will be colour of the wall etc. Try to quantify and specify even if they are intangible goals. For example if it is about improving a particular relationship, try to explain, what you really mean by good relationship with that particular person. If it is about making new friendship, try to explain what are the qualities are you looking for in the friend, and what you really want out of the friendship.
Preparing a wild list is not a job that you can finish in a single day. I believe it takes at least 48 hours to may be a week. Keep on thinking, and as soon as anything comes in your mind note it down.
I hope you have understood what you are doing. You are making a list of rewards that you want in life. These are the rewards that will motivate you to take action, and give you direction, in which you must move.
Step No. 3: TRY TO FIND THE 'WHY' FOR EVERY THING ON LIST
So, far you were making a list of all you want, without really thinking much about it. Now is the time when you will start thinking seriously about each one of them. There are a number of things in this world we feel we want. But do we really want it? This question is important. Sometimes we may want something simply because it is what others expect us to want. Other times there may be something that we think we want, but actually we don't.
Such a situation can have two results. Either, the goal will never motivate you to take any action or you may reach the goal spending time and energy only to realize it that you never wanted it. Many times the time you have lost is too long and precious to really make amendments. You will find a large number of retired people who look back in their lives to discover that they never did what they really wanted to do, because they were too busy doing what they never wanted.
To safe guard from such a situation you will follow this and then the next two steps. In this step simply ask yourself 'Why you want to be, to do or have' for every point you have written down on your wild list. Eliminate any point that you have listed on your wild-list for which you are unable to articulate a one or two lines answer.
Step No. 4: ASK YOURSELF THESE SOLID GOLD QUESTIONS
Ask the following questions for each of the goal that is still on you list:
1. Is it really my goal (or is it set by someone else)?
2. Is it fair and morally correct to everyone concerned?
3. Will my reaching this goal take me closer or father to my larger purpose of life?
4. Can I commit myself emotionally to this goal?
5. Can I visualize myself reaching the Goal?
The answer to all the above questions must be a big 'Yes.' If it is not for any of the goal listed in your list, simply strike it off. Let me assure a goal that is not yours, will harm others or does not take you closer to your larger purpose of life is not worth pursuing. And if you do not commit yourself emotionally to the goal, or if you can not visualize yourself reaching the goal, chances are that you will never achieve that goal.
Step No. 5: EVALUATE AGAINST THE MAIN OBJECTIVES OF YOUR LIFE
Now the next step is to evaluate each goal against the various ingredients of success that are the main objective of your life. For each remaining goal in your list ask yourself:
- Is this goal going to make me happier- healthier- win friends- give peace of mind- make me prosperous - will give me security- better my family relationships or give hope.
- In other words is this goal give me balanced success.
Of course, the goal that you have set will fulfill more than one objectives mentioned above. However, if it does not fulfill any of it, strike it of. It is possible that it may fulfill just one objective but hamper others, and then it means that reaching the goal will not give balanced success, and hence is not worth pursuing.
Step No. 6: GIVE TIMELINE TO EACH GOAL
Now that you have the goals that you should and will really pursue, you divide each goal as long term, intermediate and short term. You will be surprised to see that many of the short terms goal will lead you to intermediate goals and then long term goals. For example, financial freedom may be one of your long term goals. But there will be many more short term and intermediate goals that you have already written that you will achieve as you undertake your journey to financial freedom.
Once you have divided each goal into the relevant time range, put a date by which you want to reach it, against each of them. Do this by putting some thought in it. A date that is too close will make the goal seem impossible to reach and will de-motivate you. A date given too far off then required will not encourage you to take action right now.
However, there will be some goals that will have no deadline but will be ongoing in nature. These goals are the one that usually give quantifiable rewards, but are crucial to continuing success. For example, loosing 20 Kg of weight is a quantified goal and hence you can set a timeline for it. But keeping fit and in shape in unquantifiable goal and hence is ongoing one.
Step No. 7: BREAK DOWN LONG TERM GOALS INTO SHORT TERM GOALS
Even now it is possible that there are some long term and intermediate goals that do not have a corresponding short term goal in your list. For example, you have just started your career in junior management. And you have written Vice President as a goal. Of course this is a long term goal for you at the moment, because before you are actually made the Vice-President, you will have to climb a number of stairs on the career ladder.
So, write down the next higher designation than the one you are working in as your corresponding short term goal and give it a timeline. Since the short term goals are nearer to us, it is easier to visualize them and get committed to them, compared to the long term ones. Of course it is easy to be motivated by a target that we see near us than the one that is too far for us to see.
You can take all the above steps easily if you use our free "My Goal Program Development Tool". To download click here! (pdf format doc format)
Now you have a Goal Program. The next few pages will tell you how you can reach your goals.